 “Boys will be boys.” Spend enough time around boys, and you’ll hear that phrase repeated—but it isn’t a compliment. People say it to explain away bad attitudes or bad behaviors in our sons. Sadly, many of these stereotypes are well-earned. But this is precisely where we come into play, why there are habits dads need to teach their sons. READ MORE
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 "So my job was to do my very best to ensure that my voice of truth and love was heard loud and clear, above all others, by my girls. Here are 8 things you must teach your daughter." 1. “You are immeasurably valuable.” 2. “You are beautiful.” 3. “Be a lady.” 4. “Command honor and respect from men.” 5. “I love you unconditionally.” 6. “You can always count on me.” 7. “Love others.” 8. “Love God.” READ MORE What Representing Men in Divorce Taught Me About Fatherhood | Marilyn York | TEDxUniversityofNevada12/26/2020 Attorney Marilyn York owns a Men’s Rights Family Law Firm in Reno Nevada, established in 2001. She and her ten female employees focus on representing men for two reasons: 1. As her talk explains, fathers are crucial in the upbringing and development of their children; and 2. Fathers are the disadvantaged parent in family court and society and while the laws are improving, the statistics are not. There are currently more than 17,000,000 children growing up in America without their fathers and every year this number is growing. According to the Center for Disease Control, children from fatherless homes account for 90% of homeless and runaway children; 71% of high school dropouts and 63% of youth suicides. Listen to this talk to find out how you can help America's 17,000,000 fatherless children avoid these fates! Marilyn D. York is a Men's Rights Divorce Attorney, licensed in California since 1998 and Nevada since 1999, where she is a Certified Family Law Specialist. Since 2001, Marilyn has owned her law firm in Reno, Nevada, where she and her 9 female employees specifically represent men in divorce and family law battles. Marilyn chose her career because of her passion for children and relationships but most of all, Marilyn is driven to help underdogs. While the laws are improving for men, not all laws are yet gender equal and the interpretation and enforcement of those that are, have a long way to go.
 A movie called Where Hope Grows is about a former major league baseball player and struggling alcoholic named Calvin. He is a single father of a teenage daughter. His daughter, Katie, is consistently disappointed with him because he is more concerned with drinking with his buddies than being there for her. This causes her to turn to her boyfriend for the support she is missing in her dad. Even in his negligence, Calvin sees that the boy his daughter is dating is bad news. When he tries to warn her, even forbid her from seeing him, his words fall on deaf ears. It was a great reminder that if I am not lovingly consistent, faithful, and present, my words to my daughter will suffer the same fate.
A while back, my wife sent me a video text of my daughter. She was wearing a wedding veil and bouquet. She said, “Hello Daddy, welcome to my future.” After I got over the initial heart attack, I thought about her relationships with boys. I want to prepare her the best I can. The greater I model the right things to her, the deeper my words will sink into her heart when giving her boy advice. I want her to be in relationships with boys that treat her well. She needs to be prepared on how to spot the character qualities of these types of boys. With that said, here are my words of wisdom to my daughter about boys." READ MORE  In my last article “Dads’ Guide to Divorce: Step 1 — Clarify Your Vision” we spoke about how when entering into a divorce or beginning life post-divorce many men including myself struggle with clarifying a vision and direction for our lives. That as you sort through the emotions and feelings of divorce it is critical to begin to clarify your vision and direction for your future after divorce. This is important because as men our identity is closely aligned with the vision for our lives. And as part of our masculine makeup, we are wired toward aligning with the vision and direction that we want for our future.
I proposed a two-step process to assist in clarifying your vision and direction by #1: journaling and #2: a contemplative practice. If you haven’t read “Dads’ Guide to Divorce: Step 1-Clarifying Your Vision,” you can do so here. As these steps compound upon each other, I highly suggest stopping now and reading Step 1. Once we have clarified our vision and direction, it is necessary to begin the process of Strategizing Your Actions. There seems to be much confusion these days around how to set goals and put forth the effort to achieve them. YouTube and self-help books are filled with ideas, tricks, hacks, and a myriad of other advice on how to do so. However, I subscribe to this simple 3-step process: READ MORE  When working with fathers entering into divorce or who have recently divorced there is a 5-step process through which I assist them in identifying and implementing an action plan for their lives. Throughout this Dads Guide to Divorce series I will be sharing this specific process with detailed ways in which you can utilized it in order to achieve an amazing life for you and your children.
Step 1 — Clarify Your Vision and Direction When entering into divorce or beginning life post divorce many men including myself struggle with clarifying a vision and direction for our lives. Divorce is traumatic and men experience an immense amount of pain and suffering during the process. I know that I did and I want each of you to know that this is common. The feelings and emotions that come up are often overwhelming. The loss of your partner, not seeing your children, future uncertainty, financial fears, etc. are just the tip of the iceberg of a sea of feelings. Allow yourself to experience these emotions and feelings. You are not alone and if you have the means, find a coach or therapist that will assist you with sorting through them. If you don’t have the means find a support or men’s group. READ MORE...  Lately, I’ve noticed a common misconception arising in the work that I do with men, specifically divorced fathers. That is the notion that sacrifice is bad and should be avoided at all costs. The word sacrifice is defined as… Sacrifice (verb): to suffer loss of, give up, renounce, injure, or destroy especially for an ideal, belief, or end Sacrifice has taken on this negative connotation in modern day society. It seems that everywhere we look, we see and hear the same message about getting and having everything that we want and getting it now! READ MORE AT MEDIUM.COM  "A friend of mine recently told me he was getting divorced from his wife of over 20 years. I wasn’t surprised at all. Over the past 5 years, I’ve watched this friend shift his belief system and identity. He’s not the same person he was 5 years ago. He doesn’t want the same things he wanted 5, 10, or 20 years ago. His imagined future self no longer involves him being married to the woman he once believed he would be with forever.
My friend’s choice is his own. My interest as a psychologist is understanding how these things happen. This article explains how our identity and goals are formed. It also shows how you can intentionally “slow boil” yourself into whoever you want to be. Indeed, we have all slow boiled into the person we are now and are actively slow-boiling into someone. The question is: Who are you “slow-boiling” into? And are you slow-boiling into the person you really want to be? Eventually, the slow boil becomes a point of no return — and you’re no longer the same person." READ MORE "THE RED PILL" feature documentary When a feminist filmmaker sets out to document the mysterious and polarizing world of the Men’s Rights Movement, she begins to question her own beliefs. The Red Pill chronicles Cassie Jaye’s journey exploring an alternate perspective on gender equality, power and privilege. Please support Cassie Jaye on Patreon so she can continue making video content: https://www.patreon.com/cassiejaye BEST PLACES TO WATCH "THE RED PILL" MOVIE: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_mB13... VIMEO: https://vimeo.com/ondemand/theredpill Amazon Prime Video: http://amzn.to/2uCUVWa Amazon DVD US: http://amzn.to/2vwaIm6 * Amazon Blu-Ray US: ttp://amzn.to/2uCDcy0 * Amazon DVD Canada: http://a.co/88bdB7f * Amazon Blu-Ray Canada: http://a.co/92WKbUI * iTunes US: http://apple.co/2l4MsWm iTunes Canada: http://apple.co/2l0sOev iTunes UK: http://apple.co/2lc4NBm iTunes Ireland: http://apple.co/2jUQUTn VUDU: http://www.vudu.com/movies/#!content/... GOOGLE PLAY: https://play.google.com/store/movies/... XBOX: https://www.microsoft.com/en-us/store... Members of a school, university, or public library can watch on Kanopy: https://www.kanopystreaming.com/produ... * All of the DVDs & Blu-Rays have Closed Captioning in English. The discs are Region 0 which means they will play on any player in the world! www.theredpillmovie.com Cassie Jaye on Twitter @Cassie_Jaye The Red Pill on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RedPillMovie/ Cassie Jaye's on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/cassiejaye Make a one-time donation to Cassie Jaye via PayPal: http://bit.ly/2wcWVoA  Nir Eyal: Why did you write your book?
Ryan Holiday: Stillness is this timeless idea that appears in almost every religion and every ancient school of philosophy. People have been complaining about how busy and overwhelmed they are for thousands of years–and about the need to slow down. Yet when you say the word stillness, it feels very urgent and timely. I suppose we are actually busier than we've ever been before, but it's a pretty timeless problem. We're all trying to get to that thing that Cal Newport calls “deep work.” We're trying to get to a place where, as crazy as things are on the outside, we can be calm and clear on the inside. This allows us to do what's really important, whether that's being a father, being an author, or accomplishing whatever it is you are trying to do in this life. READ MORE |
